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That is why forgiveness is so important. To know that even if for a second we lost the way, and in the course of life we ​​ignored, refused, divided and hurt the one in front of us, we declare together that we are human. that is allowed to be wrong. That it is permissible to lose one's way, yet this togetherness is important to us and we are ready to start over and accept each other.

It is also important to know how to fight. No, we were not confused. Our recommendation for the couple is to occasionally even fight a little. Why fight? Because keeping it in your stomach, holding back, keeping quiet, giving up again and again at the cost of the anger filling up, the stomach exploding in a moment, is usually a recipe for an explosion. Better to talk, share, open up. Yes, also to complain and grumble. And if necessary then also argue and fight. But this is the way to share with your partner what is on your heart, and this is the way to find a more correct path together. A solution that is better for both of you. And why else fight? Because fighting is an important skill. that it is really important to learn it and practice it. that it is important to experiment with it and do it right. In a way that doesn't hurt, doesn't diminish, and doesn't humiliate or punish. And why else fight? Because reconciliation after a quarrel is a great gift. A moment of grace where we can once again breathe together, dream together, rejoice together. And reconciliation after a fight can bring the relationship to new and better places. So the way of sharing, opening up, fighting and then completing and building a higher floor, this is the way to love. #sorry

​So Shira and Yoni (the names are not real) are like that. They met at a demonstration 13 years ago. They both stood and shouted waving their hands enthusiastically, screaming from the bottom of their hearts, when suddenly their mutual shout remained suspended in the air for a moment, their eyes met and half an hour later they were already sitting together for coffee. There they discovered that it's crazy how they didn't meet before. In so many places their lives overlapped. They were in the same tribe in Bnei Akiva, quite close branches in the same district, so how come they didn't meet in any camp? Both graduated together 3 years ago at Ariel University. And both of them have been participating in Tuesday's demonstrations for a long time.

The last year has been unbearably difficult. We live in a complex reality of security tension, continuous worry, uncertainty, political violence, hope for the return of the abducted, and beside us bereaved families, who are dealing with great pain and loss. What can we do in this reality? How can we (those on the home front) help, even a little, and ease this complex situation in which we live? In the midst of all this difficulty, it is love that connects us, and is what gives us strength to continue. Love strengthens us as a society, as a community and as a people. When we rally to support the bereaved families, when we strengthen the people around us in times of uncertainty, we shower love, which serves as a healing and connecting force.

But is it possible to prevent the quarrel? Is it possible to act like the sun and not like the wind even before the quarrel developed? Is it possible to change habits and turn a freezing wind into a pleasant sun? I believe that this is possible, and so that we can work on it, I will offer several points that can help us in the process.

Usually we tend to pay attention to the big experiences, the ones that feel like the essence of life. But the truth is that life itself is experienced precisely in these small moments. Especially in a year like this, in which we witnessed such deep pain, the small moments are the ones that can help us feel connected to reality, and find moments of peace in the midst of the difficulty.

And they walk together. As a couple. From the days of Ur, the distant Chaldean, to Canaan. A couple who are expecting a child, but believe in togetherness, believe in love.

And this laughter, which at first seemed inappropriate and out of place. And perhaps even a bit of a lack of faith, remained imprinted in the name of the son who bore the good news. It remained in the name of Isaac. And Rabbi Hirsch tells us how essential this "Isaac" is to us in the chain of the Jewish people. How essential it is for us to look to the future that Isaac will smile in the face of years of slavery, persecution and wars. How essential it is for us to look to the faith in the face of the "not one" who stood and stands and will stand over us.

Sometimes it seems that Isaac is a bit missed by us. He does not have the originality of Abraham, the breakthrough, the discovery, the search. And on the other hand, he also does not have the consistency of Jacob. He does not have this drive that grabs his brother's heel and does not let go, he does not have the wanderings, the torment. He simply laughs. He continues on, passes on, sees the world with kind eyes of laughter and joy. And perhaps something in this simplicity allows love to happen, to develop.

How much Abraham believes in his servant. That he lets him take care of the thing that is most precious to him. In his son Isaac. And he trusts him to find the right and complete partnership for him. And how much trust does a servant have in the Lord of the universe, who will bring him together with the right partnership. And how much trust does he have in the young girl who waters him and his sheep, to decide that she is truly the perfect match for Isaac. And how much trust does Rebecca have, who sets out with a foreign messenger to a distant land, in full faith that this is the path that God, the Blessed, has called her to for the exact pairing for her. And how much trust does Isaac have in his father and also in the servant, that the girl they brought to him is truly the one for him. And trust between the couple is truly essential to the success of a partnership over long and good years. But also giving trust to the messengers along the way is a good and important way to succeed in building more and more homes in Israel.

Here, among the ancient stones of the well, one can see a tenderness of movement, a look of compassion. One can glimpse the shepherdess - see how she caresses the little sheep, how she protects them with sparkling eyes of love. The well is more than an expanse of water. It is an expanse of kindness. Of compassion. Of visible humanity. Every movement tells a story - quiet diligence, deep concern, immeasurable caring.

When is the search for love at first sight (like Jacob and Rachel), or perhaps a matchmaking by someone who knows and is aware (like the servant who matches Isaac and Rebecca). Or perhaps even a kind of predetermined pairing, one that we have been walking together since time immemorial (like Abraham and Sarah).