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And how similar this situation is to two going on a first date. They shyly ask what the Shabbat table will look like, and what kind of shared pastimes they like. And all in all she was quite nice, but something about her was a bit too enthusiastic, and he didn't really show any feelings either. But how much faith is needed to go on a second date, to give another chance, to believe, to hope.

And Rabbi Soloveitchik compares the matzah to his fiancée, which until there are no blessings for her, she is forbidden to eat, and he compares the night of Passover to the night of weddings.

Before the wedding, the couples make sure to separate, and they don't meet (and sometimes don't even talk) for about a week. This week the bride and groom must buy each other seven gifts for each and every day. I know, because this idea often stresses the couple, but they don't like to give it up, lest the partner be offended or hurt.

LJ Baumer bonfires heralded the start of the wedding season. Even in these days, between the evacuees and the kidnapped and the wounded, life is strong and the people of Israel continue to build more and more houses.

A peak of connection, a peak of holiness, a peak of Shekinah. Both at the wedding and at the Matan Torah holiday.

And maybe sometimes you also need to know how to close your eyes. It's not always easy, but sometimes it's the best thing to do, and it can lead to the most desired result. If we think about the way we see, we can say that when we want to see the present, we must open our eyes. If we want to see a little more clearly, sometimes we narrow our vision a little and squint our eyes.

After the festivities of the wedding subside, the couple enter into a long and lasting relationship, a relationship that should be in easy and challenging moments, in happy and boring moments. In the holy moment of "You are holy", but also in the moment when he again lingers for hours at work. The moment a new baby was born to the family, but also the moment he lay down on the floor in the middle of the mall and screamed his heart out. The moment the whole family goes out to dip in the kibbutz stream, but also on Wednesday, when you have to prepare lunch for three hungry children for the thousandth time. And you have to have the perseverance, to continue being. And the moment it stops, sages prescribe us a fast, to remind us how important it is.

And we really don't have an answer. But we know that the private redemptions of the dear ones we can try to bring about. which is also in our hands. (And as in everything, we make the intercession and pray for Shekinah's assistance).

So these days we should all be reminded of the broken hearts as well. those who are missing. the houses we haven't built yet. The days between the Straits. Time for lots of free love. Time for connections. Time to pair pairings.

Quarrels between spouses is a sign of closeness. No, this is of course not a recommendation for a fight...

And suddenly the one that I didn't want him just because of age, or the one that I didn't go out with again just because she was too shy... seems like a serious mistake to me (and you can figure out what other significant "criteria" you rejected, which suddenly seem so marginal to you in perspective!) . And suddenly with a little deeper thought, and after another year that has passed, I understand or you understand, that I pushed on because of nonsense. And for a moment I missed the really important things.

Coordination of expectations. It sounds simple but for some reason we forget to do it. Usually, we think that the other party thinks like us, feels like us, and expects the same things from the upcoming trip, couple date or family vacation. If we know there are differences of opinion between us, we prefer to avoid coordinating expectations, and prefer to 'flow', which usually turns out to be the wrong decision. Therefore, I strongly recommend before a joint experience to coordinate expectations. To ask each other how he sees the trip, the vacation, the family meeting, etc., what he expects, what he fears, what he thinks will be difficult for him, what he can enjoy, and how I as a partner can help get through it in a good way.