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Three questions I ask every couple that comes to me: What brings you to me? Do you want to change what you described? Are you ready to make an effort? At the base of these questions is an assumption that a large part of what we do in life, and a significant part of our behaviors, stem from habits embedded deep within us. To change habits requires motivation, belief in the possibility of change, small successes along the way and continuous effort.

One of the basic assumptions of the NLP says that: "The map is not the area" This basic assumption claims that the area - the objective world is undocumentable. Each person perceives the world in a unique way, therefore each person has a unique map regarding reality, and none of the representations is truly reality. In other words, it can be said that in fact: there is no reality!!! There is nothing objective!!! Everything is in the eye of the beholder.

The touch heals, comforts and relaxes. Sometimes a handshake is enough, which can replace many words. A fascinating study showed that patients who received an explanation from the doctor about taking medicine accompanied by a light touch on the arm, showed a much higher response to taking the medicine than patients who received the same explanation, but without the touch. Prisoners in solitary confinement testified that their greatest difficulty in solitary confinement was not the lack of daylight, nor the lack of conversation, but rather the lack of contact from another person. A baby often calms down just thanks to the touch of his mother or father.

Think with yourself, what kind of people are you, what is your default in relation to the various things in life. Are you 'no people?', or are you more inclined to 'yes people?', are there areas towards which you have one inclination, and other areas towards which you have a different inclination? Or is the 'why yes' or 'why not' approach correct for most areas of life?

The sharp-eyed will be able to see and feel the final moments approaching, the vigilance, the concentration and the final chord coming. The chord that will continue to resonate throughout the hall and in the spaces of the heart even when the melody stops playing. And what about us? Have we spent enough time thinking about our year-end chord? Are we preparing for it? Many of us are already busy these days with the question of how to start the new year, thinking about the new opportunities that lie ahead, and trying to choose the path we would like to follow in the coming year. But what about the end of the year?

Even in a relationship, sometimes we should give one last chance, and end the year with a sweet taste. The ability to give another chance, the ability to do what is right, the feeling and the desire for 'a little more' especially when it comes from both sides, express a deep bond of caring and love

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Telling the truth is the natural state of every person; Honesty is a significant value in a relationship. It enables a good relationship where the couple feels safe to reveal their vulnerable parts and their weaknesses. Even in the cases I meet, in which the trust between the spouses is damaged, the injured party feels a great force of disappointment, injury and betrayal of the basic trust on which married life is founded. I recommend, try as much as possible to create a married life based on full trust, honesty and truth.