Articles #Matchmaking

Because many good people go on dates and wait for love at first sight to arrive, and it rarely even exists. But mostly love is a road that is built. and even in labor and work.

And there are those for whom the loneliness of the Hanukkah is intensifying these days, having lit the Hanukkah again alone in an apartment in Nakhalot, the meeting with the extended family that is expanding and expanding... and they again come alone or are avoided.

As always on Shabbat Parshat Shemot we call the family members, take action! Look around you, ask, search in matchmaking groups, consult, contact professional matchmakers - it doesn't matter - but the right rests with you too.

So these days we should all be reminded of the broken hearts as well. those who are missing. the houses we haven't built yet. The days between the Straits. Time for lots of free love. Time for connections. Time to pair pairings.

And suddenly the one that I didn't want him just because of age, or the one that I didn't go out with again just because she was too shy... seems like a serious mistake to me (and you can figure out what other significant "criteria" you rejected, which suddenly seem so marginal to you in perspective!) . And suddenly with a little deeper thought, and after another year that has passed, I understand or you understand, that I pushed on because of nonsense. And for a moment I missed the really important things.

When is the search for love at first sight (like Jacob and Rachel), or perhaps a matchmaking by someone who knows and is aware (like the servant who matches Isaac and Rebecca). Or perhaps even a kind of predetermined pairing, one that we have been walking together since time immemorial (like Abraham and Sarah).

The miracle of Hanukkah did not begin with a miracle at all. It began with a family that refused to accept the evil of the decree. It rejoiced and resisted and fought to bring G-d and faith back into everyday life. It began with a family that refused to give up Shabbat and circumcision, and did not agree that their daughter would fall into the impure hands of the local Greek minister. And they almost did not believe that they were truly capable, but suddenly they won (few against many), and suddenly they managed to conquer Jerusalem and reach the Temple, and suddenly they had the opportunity to light the menorah again, to illuminate the darkness of the war with great light.

Some will get to know each other at the branch, be part of the same group, stay up late at night to color a holiday calendar for thirty campers, compete over which activity to do just before the start of winter (he will want to play Sarah's Life, she will want a deep, wintery message) and someday the spark will happen. At first they will hide it, but in the end it will become the most open secret there is, and they will find themselves under the canopy.

ושם, מאחורי הקלעים, יש מישהו שמכיר אותך באמת. ויודע לשאול את השאלות שצריך כדי להתאים לך בדיוק.

יש תקופות שבהן נדמה שהלב סגור. שהעולם ממשיך הלאה – ורק אני מחכה. מחכה שיקרה משהו. שיגיע מישהו.

אחד הפחדים הכי שקטים – והכי כואבים – הוא שזה שוב לא ילך. שניפתח, נרגיש, ננסה… ושוב נתאכזב. כי כבר חווינו שבר של לב, והרגשנו איך קשר מתפרק ואז ההגנה הכי טבעית היא לעצור להפסיק לנסות להגיד לא, אחרי לא, אחרי לא.

עדיין מלחמת חרבות ברזל. עדיין מסוכן לנסוע כאן בכבישים. ועדיין כולנו חפצי חיים ושלום. מרבים באהבה. בין אישה לאישה. בין חברים. בין קולגות. בתוך המשפחה. וגם עם אלה החושבים אחרת מאיתנו.