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In a relationship, humor has the power to help us reduce damage and minimize our conflicts. Sometimes instead of continuing to talk about a marital conflict, a good joke can move us from the place where we have already started to dig in without being able to get out. Sometimes the joke is the almost only way out of the unwanted place we have arrived at. It is also possible to use humor as a temporary way out, with the ability to return to the conflict at another time, after we have calmed down a bit.

But I often come across a 'strange' phenomenon. Sweet couples, who outside of their relationship are engaged in professions that are all charitable (and there are quite a few such professions), or couples who outwardly are couples who contribute and give to the family and the community. But, sometimes, those people for some reason, do not 'see' their partner. For some reason, their good heart is focused on giving outside the home, but inside the home they behave differently and sometimes even quite the opposite.

And what goes through the minds of our children? What do they think, when they meet 'the one'? Are they satisfied with their choice? Do they also have concerns and question marks? Do they also think, how will she fit in at home? Is it important to them, what we, the parents, will think of her? Are they worried that they will be 'fadihot'? Is it important to them that we like her? Is it important for them to get 'approval' from us?